I've heard it time and time again. Ten percent of your success is determined by what happens to you and 90% by how you react to what happens to you. True... so true. If you are dealt some bad cards, you can get angry... become depressed... throw up your arms in despair... or you can choose to get energized from the situation... seeing it as a challenge to be overcome.
In everyone's life there is stress. There is good stress and bad stress. The good stress is called eustress... sometimes called positive stress. A stress that can compel change. The bad stress is called distress. Distress is a damaging stress... a form of suffering. Doctors will tell you that stress can kill you. When they say that, they are referring to distress, not eustress.
You are completely in control of your attitude. You may not be in control of the some of the things that happen to you, but you are totally in control of how you react to what happens to you. I'm sure you've been around people who are all fraught with drama. Anytime anything happens... it's a crisis. They bring on their own distress and, in turn, cause distress in others. You have probably also observed others who seem to be unphased by the bad things that happen or, better yet, are compelled to action by the adversities of life.
Everyone is going to have bad things happen. It's how you react to the bad things that is a display of how well you are in control of your attitude. You can moan and complain... or you can see that in all adversity there is a call to action... a call to change. Your choice... complain or embrace change.
Richard B. Gasaway, PhD, EFO, CFO